As kids, we all loved to do the puzzles, we get handed 4 pieces puzzle and asked to put them together, we were babies then right? no wrong answers and all pieces fit in perfectly into any place. We then gave up those 4 pieces for a more challenging 50 pieces, then 100. It's then that we started to use our “smart” strategy, and usually, it started always by putting out the corners to have the cornerstones, then move along the sides to finish the frame so we would have an idea on the size of it and the direction that it should be facing... Then those 100 turns to 150 pieces, 500, 1000, 1500 and even more pieces get introduced to us. It's ok, no matter how many pieces or how small those pieces are, we can do it, we have a photo reference on the box to go back to.
What if, you were given a 3000 piece puzzle without its box, no image of what the outcome should look like, would you be able to do it? at least as fast and efficient as you would have?
In life, we are not even given those pieces all together, we pick them up one at a time, day after day. And we are supposed to figure out the full picture. The problem is we don't even know how many pieces there will be, when or where or how to start, we don't know what the final picture will look like, Hell we don't even know if those pieces we are picking are related to our picture. The biggest challenge I believe ever is to know where to start, what to use, to know the important pieces from the trashy ones.
Steve Jobs said once while giving a speech at Stanford University in 2005
You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backward. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.
When I heard that speech it hit me that we don't have one picture, we have a picture for work, a house picture, life, love, money, passion, success… We have a dream, goals health pictures. our lives are full of pictures that are connected to form the grand masterpiece that is your life. Those dots Steve was talking about, they are every single piece of the puzzle we pick up. They are your collage heartbreak by your ex, your one-month financial struggle, your illness, your F in Math.
Those dots are in every visit to the supermarket and meeting a stranger, in every dream you have and every obstacle that faces you. Every single person we meet is supposed to add something to us, maybe add love and passion, or add a lesson by not trusting him or learning who to trust. Every sickness, every fall is a lesson to know the value of something, or maybe the value of someone.
Did you ever stop to think why cancer survivors usually end up motivational speakers more than those who faced death at gunpoint? Those who faced death, or even the scientists who made big discoveries for treatment or a new mathematical way of calculating something, they added to the society, but what those who fought cancer did was finding the right piece of the puzzle to fill a certain gab, once they do, they learn how to fight back and they become more persistent than any force of nature. Sure facing instant danger is something, making a discovery is something, but making an inner discovery is completely another thing.
Never throw out a piece of that puzzle, regardless you see it as fitting or no, as long as it crossed your path then it's yours, maybe you didn't reach the place where it fits yet but trust the process, and always try to find that missing piece